Ouch, that mom has to be the #1 Biznatch, I dont really know what you could do for that, sorry though.

 

Hey man my girlfriends family is kinda wierd to and weve been together bout 8 months. shes 16 and im 17 and ik if something like that happened to us we wud jsut try anything to be with eachother. we both know that we bring out the best in eachother and that we should be together. I say you try anything you can to stay with her. good luck wtih everything man

 

You guys are young so if it's over it really won't be as tragic as it seems now.... However, I can remember how strong and fresh infatuation and emotions were when I was your age. It will never be as good again probably..... SO if you really want it to work out continue talking to both of them on separate occations. You said you had her mother eating out of the palm of your hand. So you obviously know how to juice her up. Keep at it and lay it on thick. Do whatever it takes to kiss her a$$. MAKE her like you. You said the dad never talks to anyone. Opportunity here. Play your cards right and you could be his best bud and he'd be cool with you. Do what it takes to communicate with your girl. Just do what us gen-xers did. Pass notes. Hide them in your shoes if you have too. I know it sucks having to kiss it up to the crazy parents, but if you want to be with her that may be what it takes. A little reverse psycology never hurt. Trust me, my girl's familly sounds a lot like your girls family, probably only worse. They will come around eventually if you are around for the long haul. Even if they never really like you or your relationship with their daughter they will eventually give up if the two of you keep at it. After all, I married my high school sweetheart, we were your ages when we started dating, lost our virginity to each other and all, but it didn't last because we were young and foolish. Best six years of my life though, and I wouldn't trade them for anything. GOOD LUCK! B)

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Double_A @ Mar 17 2005, 07:29 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'>So what im trying to say is, even though you love her and want things to work, i can tell you they wont.
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f*** that, dont say that shit man.... I went through the same damn thing....
I am getting married to the girl I went through this with in 2 months.

 

Back in November, my dad and I got into a fight and my boyfriend prevented him from punching me in the face 4 different times. He kicked me out of my house with nothing, plus he attempted to seriously harm me. I called the cops on him and yadda, and got some clothes. I was out of that house for weeks, living with my boyfriend. The problem with the whole situation was that my dad was HEAVILY drunk. My mom allowed me back into the house (since I couldn't afford living with my boyfriend), and my dad just didn't acknowledge me. He banned my boyfriend from my house and didn't want me to go anywhere near him. It's been over 5 months now. To this day, he claims my boyfriend called the cops on him when it was me! From MY cell phone! I still went out to see my boyfriend. I didn't care. I was 18, and as far as I'm concerned, where I go outside of my father's house is none of his concern. My boyfriend is 21 and I'm 18. I turn 19 on May 6th, and he turns 22 on July 1st.

Right now, my dad is going to AA and straightening out his life. We have been working on our father/daughter relationship during the past few weeks quite a lot too. Hopefully, he WILL let my boyfriend back near/in this house again.

Point is, your girlfriend's mother just might be going through an "episode" right now. Give it a few weeks (about 5 to 6 or so) and try to talk to her again. Maybe you and her just need time apart so she can cool down with whatever is causing her psychotic attitude. Maybe have some of your friends or your girlfriend's friends pick her up from her house and bring her to you. Maybe have your girlfriend walk somewhere in her town and you can pick her up without her mom knowing. These are just some ideas. Just allow time and space between you and her mother. It will all get better. Good luck.

 

^I agree with Toxic but I'll just add my point of view too.

Same thing happened to one of my friends. What I told him was "if she loves you, she'll stick by you no matter what, and not leave your side and find a way to be with you." Same thing applies here. Her mom sounds crazy but then again she just might be overprotective. I believe things will get better if both parties want them to. Basically what I mean is..if she loves you she'll stick by you even under her mom's influence. I know that if I loved someone I would stick by them no matter what my parents said. Just give it time, let the girl think about it and see what she does. Whatever the case at the end, all will be good. Your young, if shes not the girl for you then someone else will be. Good luck.