Well quick run down of an extremely long story...
Im 22. Met this girl when i was a jr in highschool (17) and she was a soph. Things never panned out with us, but throughtout the past SIX years, yes count them SIX years i would always find myself wondering "what if" what if we had actually givin it a try... Well this past weekened i confessed everything to her...basically that ive been in love with her the last six years... she said shes always had feelings, but isnt sure if she ever sees it workin...we never attempted dating by the way. i would tell her how i felt then shed run away. so senior year i gave up and dated others and thats how its been since then...little piece about her...shes never had a relationship...shes that shy type who psych's herself out of everything... i told her everything and i told her i want to stop feelin this way but its impossible...truth is, i ALWAYS thoght id end up with her. out of all my gf's shes the only one i ever truly saw a real future with...

my question...
what would you do? or what have you done? and i dont mean you loved someone but let them go...i mean this was that ONE person. that one person who stole your heart the moment you met him/her and no matter what happens, if it doesnt work out, theyll always have it....im afraid if i give up and really do move on and force her out of my heart, mind, life...that at that exact moment will be the same time she wants something..

ps let me reitterate, the story behind all this is LONG lol

 

Why the hell not try it? I don't see any reason why you should give up..

 

I'd go for it man, I have. Here's the catch, once youve had sex there is no going back to friends. If you break up and you'll fade fast to nothing losing a great friend, thats boiler plate stuff and no way around it. If its worth it to you to still go for it then give it a shot by trying to show her how you feel about her instead of telling her. Chances are if she is shy she just needs you to do something that makes her so happy she cant hide true emotions. What I'm talkin about is not a gift or anything like that. Talk is cheap and no girl like that wants to be bought. Be original and do something with her that has you two acting like your in high school again. Then take advantage of your hard work and plotting at this point, initiate something physical as if you didn't even expect it. Good luck man!

 

The same exact thing happened to me. I met the love of my life during the summer between my Junior and Senior year in high school. She had never had any serious type of relationship (not many have while still in high school). That was 7 years ago for me (I'm 24).

The only difference between our scenarios is that I became a stalker and wouldn't leave her alone until we started dating. We got married last year, October 2006.



DOOOOO EEEEEEETTTT!!!!! You've already wasted 6 years, why waste the rest of your life? If it doesn't work out, oh well, at least you won't WORRY about it for the rest of your life! Life's too short NOT to go for it. Go all out, aim for a touchdown! If you get sacked for a loss of yards, run another route and at least try for a first down. Don't punt the ball and avoid her from getting near the end zone. IF you fumble, let her recover and run it back for a touchdown... SCORE!!!

 

I havnt...Ive been the one whos tried...she hasnt, shes the one whos backing out before anythings happened


I know that about the s*x part. and i know if i want to prove it to her i have to do something...ps...she also goes to a different school a few hrs awawy so it would take some time for it to happen with schedules and all...ps you said do something for her and then make a move for the physcial part....thats part of the lonnnnnng story from this weekend...it was actually the first time we had ever kissed! i was always too nervous and goin a million miles a second over thinking it worry about what she was thinkin at the moment owned.gif


I like the football analogy. and i went for it this weekend...i layed it all out there, but i think i really do just need to SHOW her instead of TELL her.

 

^^^ that was the single biggest football metaphor i've ever seen lol

I say go for it! fing02.gif

 

good job going for the kiss man, at this rate you'll be able to get to second base when your both 40...im jus messin man, thats a big step even if it wasn't the way you expected/dreamt/hoped whatever. Now just go with something that brings her joy and find a way to incorporate it into your next hangout. Big thing, don't let those nerves get to you. Just think of it like a roller coaster, on the way up you get the hibijibi's but on the way down arms are up flailing and you don't want the ride to end. eh, the football analogy was way better....but think of something she does that makes you feel confident whenever your nervous to relieve some of the tension

 

heres the shortest summary of what happened...
Im dating this girl AAA... i met her here at school...she knows girl BBB (the one im crazy about) where they went to college together...well I went with AAA to her old college... saturday night we were out and BBB came out too....well BBB proceeded to push me out of the bar and kissed me...just so happens a friend of AAA saw and went and told her and all hell broke loose....

didnt expect it to happen, didnt know it was going to...granted we were both drunk but i didnt know that was goin to happen...we were talkin in the bar about things and i assumed she wanted to talk somewhere quieter for a minute...sooo then thats when i confessed everything and layed it all out.

AAA wants to work it out, shes crazy about me and wants to try and get passed it, i told her im not sure how i feel right now and i need to figure things out, thats what shes havin the hardest time with, if it were just a drunken kiss/mistake , fine itd all be over by now, but it opened up a lot for me again. so thats where we are at. i talked to BBB monday and havnt heard back yet.

 

same thing happened to me man. i know exactly how that feels, i had feelings like that for 6 years too, and still wonder today what would or will happen.

i've learned it's best to confess and work for it to prove her. you also need to fix yourself up too like workout and stuff, do good in school...etc.

i think of it this way. NO is the same answer you will get 1. if you try, you've got a slim chance she'll accept 2. if you don't try.

based on the chances, trying is the better solution.

 

^^^wow i would say that is shit hitting th fan