personally...i would not give him nothing until he shows that he is trying on his own...

personally i have someone in my family somewhat similar to your situation and they no not to call me about money stuff cuz, i feel there is a will there is a way...

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (radu_rd2 @ Apr 29 2009, 09:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>Get him a beater or help him fix that car. Getting a junkyard engine and tranny might run you under $1k and you'll learn some new stuff smile.gif</div>

finding a motor for his car around WI is hard you'll have to go way out of state to get one. i've told him might as well just junk it, otherwise sell it for $1800 or so.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (mwood @ Apr 29 2009, 11:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>personally...i would not give him nothing until he shows that he is trying on his own...

personally i have someone in my family somewhat similar to your situation and they no not to call me about money stuff cuz, i feel there is a will there is a way...</div>

he's pretty irresponsible, his last car was a 98 gs400 and he drove that thing drunk all the time and curb rashed it a shit load of times so that thing got traded in. and he always drinks and drives. if i wanted to see my car in the shit hole i might as well put it there myself.

 

if he is irresponsible why even bother...

personally from what you told us "if you got money to throw away, go ahead and give him your car...if you don't please use common sense"

 

The more you say about him the more it seems like a bad idea to give him the car....

It seems like you are understanding this.

 

i'm thinking i'm not but my wife still wants me to give it to him. damn, women can't let a man love his other significant one.

 

its not her car and not her decision...maybe you need to explain all what you told us to her

 

And ask her what difference does it make whether you help him out with the tib or with a beater?! Isn't the concern that you help him?

 

Explain to her what your losses/risks would be if you gave the tib to that if you helped him get a junker and bring the point home by showing that you are still helping in the end, but you just aren't losing what you care for.

 

Tell her you'll give him the car if she gets $8,000 out of him up front. Otherwise, no.

Time to be a macho and explain things to your wife. A major decision like GIVING somebody a car is something a family decides to do together, or else the default position is "no."

 

my words to my wife were, "If I wanted to see my car in a shithole, i'll put it there myself." and told her to shut the f*** up cause i know he will not respect the car cause it's a free car. she argued with me for a hour and i said flat out no! i told my bro that and he understood cause he's like you've spent a lot of money into it so i'm not surprised at you not giving me your car. i told him if i had another car, meaning a third car i most likely would have gave him my tib, but since i don't that's why i didnt.