You're going to hate me for this but it'll be useful for future diy'ers.

Assuming you're talking about the tie rod.
The reason it's not coming off is cause it's a ball joint so it's spining. You have to apply pressure on that joint to keep it from spining. I used a c-clamp and two pieces of metal.

^^^I tried using vice grips to clamp onto the joint but it just kept spinning no matter how tight I put them. Finally got frustrated and hacked it off.

Oh by the way if anyone in the future needs a new stabilizer link, when you buy them from the dealer they don't come with new bolts