Requesting Prayers For My Wife.
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From: ɯooɹpǝq ɹnoʎ
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For almost any of the RDTiburon veterans here, you're aware of my wife's extensive history of medical problems. For others, I'm sure there's a thread here or there about it, but I won't take the time to list them here.
On Monday night, I was working late - this is one of the two busiest weeks we have in the year. I got off work at 5:30 and went to pick my wife up from work. We carpool since we work within 5-10 minutes of each other. After picking her up, we were on our way home. We're in the left hand lane, stopped at a green light. The vehicles in front of me were waiting for traffic to clear so they could make a left turn. I see a car approaching from behind, and I watch intently as I thought she was going to rear end us... she didn't, but I thought she was going to. About 20 seconds after she came to a complete stop, I feel a huge jolt, and realize she's just plowed into us. I get out, and ask her to turn onto the side street to get out of the way of traffic, she complied.
We turned onto the side road, I get out and approach her vehicle. I ask her if she has insurance, and she confesses that she doesn't. (It's illegal to operate a motor vehicle in Tennessee without insurance. If you're pulled over by an officer, they can issue a citation if you can't produce PROOF of insurance). I asked her for her driver's license, and I gave her mine. I didn't dare offer her my insurance information.
I copy down all of her information from the driver's license... her DL#, name, address, height, DOB, everything. I return it to her, and she voluntarily gives me her new address (her license had not been updated) along with a cell phone number. I wrote those down, and returned to my vehicle to check on my wife who was crying and complaining of severe neck and back pain. I get in the car to try to console her and find out specifics of her pain.
I look up, and the other lady is making a U-Turn on a one way street (now driving the wrong way). She fled the scene of the accident. At this time, my wife gets scared and says her right arm is numb - this scares me. My wife works at Vanderbilt Medical Center, and we were still only a mile away, so I decide to take her directly to the E.R. I call the Metro-Nashville PD and ask them to meet me at the hospital so I can file a police report.
My wife still had her Vanderbilt ID badge on, and when we arrived they rushed her through (didn't even have to stop at the metal detector). They got her back within two minutes, had a nurse talking to her, got her back for X-Rays immediately - did a very good job.
The accident happened at about 5:45 p.m. My wife's uncle came to the E.R. and started calling Metro to get a car down to the hospital so I could file a police report. He called 5 times within 4 hours trying to get someone to come. Everytime they said they'd send an officer, one time they claimed they'd be sending a Sergeant since nobody had responded yet. By 10:00 nobody had arrived. On the final call to Metro, we were told that because I left the scene of the accident to take my wife to the hospital, it was now a civil matter and they refused to file a police report.
Vanderbilt released my wife at 10:00. They gave her 5mg of Loratab when she first arrived (6pm) and nothing else. They sent her home with prescriptions for muscle relaxers and pain medicine - but wait, it's 10pm - pharmacies aren't open and we have to wait til 8am the next morning for my wife to get any relief. The E.R. wouldn't give her anymore pain medicine before we left. They stuck her with an IV and never even used it.
Because my wife has pre-existing back problems, they told her to see her spinal specialist the following day to verify which fractures were old and which were new. They didn't give us her x-rays, CT results, or anything they did in the E.R, so she had to go through all that again the next day. At least they put her in a neck brace until her spinal specialist could see her.
She had more x-rays, CT scans, MRIs, and bone density scans on Tuesday and Thursday. She has a new compression fracture at her T-5 that's compressed over 50%. She's restricted from work for at least a month. She has torn the ligaments and tendons in her neck that support her spine. She's pretty much restricted to the bed, but can't get comfortable with back/neck pain and wakes up at least every hour. They aren't going to put her in a back brace again, I guess the neck brace should stabalize her enough.
Because Metro refused to file a police report, insurance has to take my word on it. They've been able to contact the other lady involved, and I guess she admitted to everything.
Problem: The stupid plastic rear bumper on the Mustang only has a couple scratches on it. Though we were hit pretty dang hard, there's not really proof of it happening. Allstate looked at the car, and said they'd pay $20 to have it buffed by a shop. I said it wasn't worth the hassle, but they're trying to reason why my wife is in so much pain when the car wasn't damaged. I guess when you already have 5 fractured discs in your back and osteoporosis, you're supposed to be able to handle a 15mph jerk of your body.
Question: I'd still like to file a police report - why would they refuse to let me? I've known people who filed a report the following day. What's the best way to pursue this further? I want it mostly for insurance purposes - I don't want to be screwed over with medical bills.
The other lady was driving a 20-25 year old Pile of crap car... gray and already banged up pretty bad. Probably worth $100 in scrap. I got her license plate number as well... the only thing I didn't get was her VIN. No point in lawsuits, and she doesn't live in the most attractive part of town - I wouldn't get anything out of her. I don't expect a payout, I don't want money, I just want to make sure the medical bills are paid.
Doctor Results: Torn ligaments and tendons in her neck. Compression fracture (over 50% compressed) which is causing a buldging disc in her Thoracic spine. No work for a month, stay in bed and let bones heal. Neck brace for at least the next several weeks.
Prior conditions: 5 compression fractures in her T-Spine. Crohn's Disease (forced her to drop out of college). Osteoporosis. Surgery to remove Gall bladder (over 30 gallstones). Surgery for Crohn's (removing part of colon and intestines). Hospitalized for over a month for continual, uncontrollable migraines.
All this, and she's only 25.
Please pray.
On Monday night, I was working late - this is one of the two busiest weeks we have in the year. I got off work at 5:30 and went to pick my wife up from work. We carpool since we work within 5-10 minutes of each other. After picking her up, we were on our way home. We're in the left hand lane, stopped at a green light. The vehicles in front of me were waiting for traffic to clear so they could make a left turn. I see a car approaching from behind, and I watch intently as I thought she was going to rear end us... she didn't, but I thought she was going to. About 20 seconds after she came to a complete stop, I feel a huge jolt, and realize she's just plowed into us. I get out, and ask her to turn onto the side street to get out of the way of traffic, she complied.
We turned onto the side road, I get out and approach her vehicle. I ask her if she has insurance, and she confesses that she doesn't. (It's illegal to operate a motor vehicle in Tennessee without insurance. If you're pulled over by an officer, they can issue a citation if you can't produce PROOF of insurance). I asked her for her driver's license, and I gave her mine. I didn't dare offer her my insurance information.
I copy down all of her information from the driver's license... her DL#, name, address, height, DOB, everything. I return it to her, and she voluntarily gives me her new address (her license had not been updated) along with a cell phone number. I wrote those down, and returned to my vehicle to check on my wife who was crying and complaining of severe neck and back pain. I get in the car to try to console her and find out specifics of her pain.
I look up, and the other lady is making a U-Turn on a one way street (now driving the wrong way). She fled the scene of the accident. At this time, my wife gets scared and says her right arm is numb - this scares me. My wife works at Vanderbilt Medical Center, and we were still only a mile away, so I decide to take her directly to the E.R. I call the Metro-Nashville PD and ask them to meet me at the hospital so I can file a police report.
My wife still had her Vanderbilt ID badge on, and when we arrived they rushed her through (didn't even have to stop at the metal detector). They got her back within two minutes, had a nurse talking to her, got her back for X-Rays immediately - did a very good job.
The accident happened at about 5:45 p.m. My wife's uncle came to the E.R. and started calling Metro to get a car down to the hospital so I could file a police report. He called 5 times within 4 hours trying to get someone to come. Everytime they said they'd send an officer, one time they claimed they'd be sending a Sergeant since nobody had responded yet. By 10:00 nobody had arrived. On the final call to Metro, we were told that because I left the scene of the accident to take my wife to the hospital, it was now a civil matter and they refused to file a police report.
Vanderbilt released my wife at 10:00. They gave her 5mg of Loratab when she first arrived (6pm) and nothing else. They sent her home with prescriptions for muscle relaxers and pain medicine - but wait, it's 10pm - pharmacies aren't open and we have to wait til 8am the next morning for my wife to get any relief. The E.R. wouldn't give her anymore pain medicine before we left. They stuck her with an IV and never even used it.
Because my wife has pre-existing back problems, they told her to see her spinal specialist the following day to verify which fractures were old and which were new. They didn't give us her x-rays, CT results, or anything they did in the E.R, so she had to go through all that again the next day. At least they put her in a neck brace until her spinal specialist could see her.
She had more x-rays, CT scans, MRIs, and bone density scans on Tuesday and Thursday. She has a new compression fracture at her T-5 that's compressed over 50%. She's restricted from work for at least a month. She has torn the ligaments and tendons in her neck that support her spine. She's pretty much restricted to the bed, but can't get comfortable with back/neck pain and wakes up at least every hour. They aren't going to put her in a back brace again, I guess the neck brace should stabalize her enough.
Because Metro refused to file a police report, insurance has to take my word on it. They've been able to contact the other lady involved, and I guess she admitted to everything.
Problem: The stupid plastic rear bumper on the Mustang only has a couple scratches on it. Though we were hit pretty dang hard, there's not really proof of it happening. Allstate looked at the car, and said they'd pay $20 to have it buffed by a shop. I said it wasn't worth the hassle, but they're trying to reason why my wife is in so much pain when the car wasn't damaged. I guess when you already have 5 fractured discs in your back and osteoporosis, you're supposed to be able to handle a 15mph jerk of your body.
Question: I'd still like to file a police report - why would they refuse to let me? I've known people who filed a report the following day. What's the best way to pursue this further? I want it mostly for insurance purposes - I don't want to be screwed over with medical bills.
The other lady was driving a 20-25 year old Pile of crap car... gray and already banged up pretty bad. Probably worth $100 in scrap. I got her license plate number as well... the only thing I didn't get was her VIN. No point in lawsuits, and she doesn't live in the most attractive part of town - I wouldn't get anything out of her. I don't expect a payout, I don't want money, I just want to make sure the medical bills are paid.
Doctor Results: Torn ligaments and tendons in her neck. Compression fracture (over 50% compressed) which is causing a buldging disc in her Thoracic spine. No work for a month, stay in bed and let bones heal. Neck brace for at least the next several weeks.
Prior conditions: 5 compression fractures in her T-Spine. Crohn's Disease (forced her to drop out of college). Osteoporosis. Surgery to remove Gall bladder (over 30 gallstones). Surgery for Crohn's (removing part of colon and intestines). Hospitalized for over a month for continual, uncontrollable migraines.
All this, and she's only 25.
Please pray.
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she's having a really hard time emotionally and mentally. Having gone through so many problems with her back and physical therapy - after two years she was finally making progress, and then this happens.
My parents were taking us to Disney World in January - trip cancelled.
She loves to dress up fancy, and we were going to my company's formal Christmas party tonight - she had bought a little black dress and everything, now she can't go.
In the last 3 years, this is the third time she's been restricted to a bed for months at a time. She just feels like giving up.
her position at Vanderbilt is so competitive, and she's afraid she's going to lose what she's worked so hard to gain. People will have to cover for her and do her job while she's gone, and she's afraid they'll find someone better.
She's worrying about so many things right now.
My parents were taking us to Disney World in January - trip cancelled.
She loves to dress up fancy, and we were going to my company's formal Christmas party tonight - she had bought a little black dress and everything, now she can't go.
In the last 3 years, this is the third time she's been restricted to a bed for months at a time. She just feels like giving up.
her position at Vanderbilt is so competitive, and she's afraid she's going to lose what she's worked so hard to gain. People will have to cover for her and do her job while she's gone, and she's afraid they'll find someone better.
She's worrying about so many things right now.
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man im sorry to hear that on top of everything else your wife has been through, now this.! you are in my thoughts and prayers man. hopefully she gets better soon.
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No matter what dont let her give up. There is an entire community that is pulling for her. I know this isnt her first time but hopefully everything will be good again.
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Hey, majikTib I send my condolences to you and your wife.
Also, I have to really good friends in the police force where I'm at and will give them a call tomorrow (they work today). I'll ask them about filing the report the next day and why the police refused to file.
Again, I hope you wife gets better and not give up!
She might be in a rough spot lately but hold out. Life will get better - I promise.
Also, I have to really good friends in the police force where I'm at and will give them a call tomorrow (they work today). I'll ask them about filing the report the next day and why the police refused to file.
Again, I hope you wife gets better and not give up!
She might be in a rough spot lately but hold out. Life will get better - I promise.
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Wow, sorry to hear about all the problems. I hope it works out well for you. As for the police report just walk down to your local police substation and do it. It's normal for them to not send an officer if the crime scene is gone and they have nothing to clear out. They do it here in Vegas all the time. They'll usually just tell you to go to a substation and do it here in Vegas though instead of all the run around that you got. They shouldn't have an issue with you filing one. Tell them it's for your insurance and they'll just hand you the papers I'm sure.
