I don’t know about you guys but it’s difficult for me to pick up random girls at a club. If I’m ever at a club, it’s to hang out with friends or dance with a girl that I already came with.

Recently I had a friend tell me he wanted to go to a club and ask me if I would tag along with him. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said pick up random girls. I thought it was a bad idea, but for one reason or another, I ended up going anyway. It ended up being a bad idea. We both ended up either standing by a wall while people danced, or walking around aimlessly back and forth like retards. Once I had enough, I told him I was going home, and I did. It was a bad experience. I felt like a dumbass who doesn't know how to behave around girls and I’ll never do that again.

Whenever I go to clubs with friends, I always bring up how stupid guys look standing by the wall. They look like idiots. No girl’s going to leave her friends and walk up to one of these guys and start dancing with him. I don’t understand why they pay $10-20 to enter a crowded place with expensive drinks and NOT dance. I make sure to bring one of my girl friends or a girl that I’m seeing to make sure I have a good time.

Here’s what we as guys have going against us if we plan on getting random girls at a club:
1. Many girls go to clubs just to dance with their girl friends, not hook up. Believe it.

2. It’s hard to stand out (assuming you’re not the only semi attractive guy there with a nice shirt/cologne).

3. Unless you’re the DJ or a club promoter, you are not an automatic desirable random guy to the random girl. (visionz can you confirm this?)

4. It’s hard to have a conversation while dancing/sitting down because of the loud music. Sounds dumb, but you’ll feel even dumber when there’s a whole bunch of “What? I can’t hear you.” going on. Better to have known her before hand.

5. The drunk, easy, slutty looking girl is already taken by the time you notice her.

Going out to the club with my friend that night taught me a lot. You can’t rely on nice clothes, having a good physique, intelligence, etc at a club because none of that stands out. There’s plenty of other nice looking guys to pick from. PLUS, some of these girls don’t care because they just came to dance, without you. If you do wanna dance with a girl, it’s much easier to bring one that you’ve met somewhere else, be it church, school or work.

What do you guys think? Do you guys have similar experiences, or do I have no game? dunno.gif

 

Interesting thread. Well, first off....I can tell you that most of the 5 things you posted, is correct. Second, I can tell you that no good relationship will ever come out of meeting someone at a club or bar. Yes, there are those very small incidents where a decent relationship does happen, but its rare.

People go to clubs to dance, get trashed, and try to hook up. Unless you're the designated driver or just 100% sober in general....you will be one of the few people who are not there to to either have a one night stand or get completely wasted.

I agree with you about the guys who just stand there all night, staring at girls. For one, its creepy as hell, and two...if you dont have any game or willing to take a chance and dance....then you'll always end up leaving by yourself or your "boys."

Another thing to remember is, you dont want to get involved with a girl who easily says yes and goes home with you. If she's that easy with you, more than likely she has been that easy with a bunch of other guys. You take a strong risk of waking up with a new unfriendly itching or burning feeling in the morning.

However, if you are still wanting to meet a girl and have something come out of it...just remember this. Girls like a guy who isnt afraid to go up and start a conversation with them. If she's with a group of her friends, go up and buy them a drink. Talk to all of them, and look them in the eye...not at their tits or ass. Ask them all if they want to dance. Show some initiative and show that you are genuinly interested in a girl. If a girl thinks you're just there to get into her pants, you'll most likely get shot down, unless she truly is the typical bar slut who will go home with anyone. But by having fun with her and her friends, you may end up with a phone number at the end of the night.

Also, if you cant dance...too bad. As long as you're not making a fool of yourself and doing the Sprinkler, or Running Man and thinking you're the greatest sh*t on the dance floor...girls dont care that you're not the worlds greatest dancer. They just want someone to go out on the dance floor, move around a little with them, and have a few laughs. Also, dont go up and start grinding up against a girl like you want to make a full all out porno with her on the dance floor. This will get you a quick slap in the face, or drink poured on you. Girls dont like skeezy guys rubbing all up on them. Its better to ask them if they want to dance, and let her make those types of moves first.

There's alot of other things I could go on about, but these are the general rules. Stick with these, and you'll be ok.

OH, and yes...DJ's, club promoters, club managers, and bartenders do get the womenz! wink.gif laugh.gif

 

I've noticed one common denominator between all of the guys I know who've hooked up with "club girls". They all have serious skills on the dance floor. Some of them are really nothing to look at, but they can dance circles around 95% of the guys at the club. That's really the only thing you can do at a club to stand out... unless you're a celebrity or spend like one. Almost every girl I've dated I met either at a car club or motorcycle meet.

 

^ You're absolutely right! When I was single, I would go out with my Bboy crew and we would tear sh*t up. By the end of the night, we would all end up with a ton of numbers. Between that and getting #'s from being a well known club DJ....I could of had some serious fun with many many girls, but thats not in my nature to take home a random club whore. Now that I'm with my gf, any number I get...I just pass it on to some drunken guy at the end of the night and tell him that the girl wanted him to have it. laugh.gif

 

The only point I ever see about going to a club is not about meeting people, but rather a place for people to get wasted and have fun. Meeting someone inside of a club is just completely visual. You can't hear a thing, so how can you possibly tell what personality traits a person has.

On the other hand, since smoking inside has been banned in my city, everyone goes outside. That's the only way I've ever genuinely met someone at a club was because I went outside to smoke a cigarette and for me, it's a social activity. haha

 

OMG visionz thank you soooooooo much for posting that! So many guys just dont have a clue when at the club. laugh.gif Nice to see that someone gets it.

 

Lots of good info here. But I'll add to it from my experience.

Get over your fear of rejection. If you're the guy standing by the wall hoping some hot chick is gonna come over and talk to you it may happen someday, but you may die of old age before it does. If you're just looking to hook up with some chick, it's a bit of a numbers game. The more girls you talk to the more likely you are to succeed. If you walk into a club at 11:00pm and start talking to every girl you're willing to sleep with you'll probably go through 20 or less before you find one that's obviously looking to hook up. I'm not saying that you walk up and ask if she wants to go home with you (although believe it or not you ask a room full of tipsy chicks and you would probably have more than one taker), just go up and talk to them. It doesn't much matter what about. You can tell where it's gonna go within 5 minutes of starting to talk to her. If it's not going well, MOVE ON. Don't buy a semi interested chick drinks all night. It's a complete waste of time. There are plenty of chicks that won't need convincing, just encouragement in the form of you coming across as semi-normal and maybe keeping her a bit buzzed.

HAVE CONFIDENCE. Build it up on purpose. They're just women, and not to be feared. Expect rejection. It'll happen to everyone. I suggest picking a day and setting out to talk to 10 women at the club. No goal of getting laid or anything, your only goal is talking to 10 women. Start with trolls and fatties if you have to. Whatever it takes to help you get use to talking to something with a vagina. I use to be scared to death to talk to women, now I can talk to anyone, any time without feeling uncomfortable. You have to try to actively change though and I know it can be difficult and take work.

Learn to talk comfortably, then later you can learn to get the women to come home with you. You can never close without first opening communication.

And I fully agree, don't go to a club looking for a relationship. Ever. Sure it works out occasionally, but it's not a good place to "meet women" unless all you want is a warm moist place.

 

^^^ One problem... I've never had much success "talking" to anyone in a club. Half the time, even the bartender can't hear me.

 

I guess if it's not possible find a quieter club if you're trying to pick up chicks. If that's what you're there for might as well make it easier on yourself. Some clubs are like that, but I personally hate clubs that are louder than a rock concert anyway and would leave.