I've never heard a story that convinces me to have kids
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I've never heard a story that convinces me to have kids
Every story I hear about having kids sounds like a nightmare. The parents are always stressed out, never have enough time or money to do anything, moms become bloated whales, the pain from what I understand is sometimes unbearable, the kids are always crying, screaming, or sick...it does not sound fun at all.
Is having a kid like some religion where you don't understand it at all, until you're indoctrinated into the cult? And then having a kid suddenly becomes the greatest thing to happen in your life?
I seriously don't get it.
What are the positives of having kids? Do they outweigh the negatives? Or is it just something you do anyway because you're supposed to?
Is having a kid like some religion where you don't understand it at all, until you're indoctrinated into the cult? And then having a kid suddenly becomes the greatest thing to happen in your life?
I seriously don't get it.
What are the positives of having kids? Do they outweigh the negatives? Or is it just something you do anyway because you're supposed to?
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my friends, who have sh*tty jobs, all had kids right outta high school thinking they were all grown up and deserve it. all of their kids were "accidents" and i'm really not friends with them now because all that matters is their kids. their facebook updates are like: "Fredrika squinted today!, i'm taking Fredrika to the mall, Fredrika is sick why does this happen to me?!, i'm so happy i got her a blue dress!"
i ask them: why would you have a kid(s) in order to repeat the same process you got screwed over with? wouldn't you want to make something out of them so they can have a better life than you had? what else is the point of kids? if i was living in a disease-infested jungle with a high death rate, i sure as hell wouldn't have kids.
a real kid is one that gets born into ready circumstances. at that point, he or she has the highest potential, opportunity, and surety to make the best of themselves with the proper guidance, and endure a world of happiness instead of one of sadness.
i think real kids have a lot of time and care invested into them, but also ones that don't have to worry about grown up problems. of course there are exceptions, like chemical/hormonal/neurological/genetic imbalances, otherwise, you get brats.
i ask them: why would you have a kid(s) in order to repeat the same process you got screwed over with? wouldn't you want to make something out of them so they can have a better life than you had? what else is the point of kids? if i was living in a disease-infested jungle with a high death rate, i sure as hell wouldn't have kids.
a real kid is one that gets born into ready circumstances. at that point, he or she has the highest potential, opportunity, and surety to make the best of themselves with the proper guidance, and endure a world of happiness instead of one of sadness.
i think real kids have a lot of time and care invested into them, but also ones that don't have to worry about grown up problems. of course there are exceptions, like chemical/hormonal/neurological/genetic imbalances, otherwise, you get brats.
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It's an issue with 2 sides.
I like having my daughter, but it's not always easy or fun. It's taught me to be less "all about me" than I was before, which is a good thing, but it also forced me to change in ways that I sometimes wish I wouldn't have had to.
Now that she's 11, it's much better than when she relied on us 100%. It is rewarding to watch her grow up and help her prepare for life as an adult.
In short, I would not trade being a parent, but I wouldn't want to spend my entire life raising kids either. If I could go back and plan things 100% I would have waited until about 35 to become a father. As it is, she'll be 18 when I'm 36. That leaves a lot of my somewhat youthful life to be spontaneous and do some of the things that are hard to do with the responsibility of raising a child. And I (hopefully) will have the money at that stage in life to do more fun things than if I was 20 and still hadn't had a kid. I do not want another kid mostly because at this point by the time the new kid was 18 I would be getting too old to do a lot of the things I'm looking forward to doing without a kid at home.
Also, on a side note, if you haven't, watch Idiocracy. It's a comedy, but one with a message to it. Worldwide the smartest most successful couples are not having children, or are having far less children than couples with below average intelligence and success. This will devolve the human race slowly but surely, at least until the point that it levels out.
I like having my daughter, but it's not always easy or fun. It's taught me to be less "all about me" than I was before, which is a good thing, but it also forced me to change in ways that I sometimes wish I wouldn't have had to.
Now that she's 11, it's much better than when she relied on us 100%. It is rewarding to watch her grow up and help her prepare for life as an adult.
In short, I would not trade being a parent, but I wouldn't want to spend my entire life raising kids either. If I could go back and plan things 100% I would have waited until about 35 to become a father. As it is, she'll be 18 when I'm 36. That leaves a lot of my somewhat youthful life to be spontaneous and do some of the things that are hard to do with the responsibility of raising a child. And I (hopefully) will have the money at that stage in life to do more fun things than if I was 20 and still hadn't had a kid. I do not want another kid mostly because at this point by the time the new kid was 18 I would be getting too old to do a lot of the things I'm looking forward to doing without a kid at home.
Also, on a side note, if you haven't, watch Idiocracy. It's a comedy, but one with a message to it. Worldwide the smartest most successful couples are not having children, or are having far less children than couples with below average intelligence and success. This will devolve the human race slowly but surely, at least until the point that it levels out.