Very very long story short this guy Ive known for a while now just professed his love for me, theres a lot to it but basically here's the problem. Hes a nice guy, has a nice car and everything but 1. hes italian and is EXACTLY like my two ex boyfriends, and 2. hes 29. and also factor in 3. Im moving. Now I'm too nice and agreed to give him a chance. But I explained to him how I feel and everything and that Im moving and that I dont want a serious relationship and yadda yadda yadda. So I figured we're cool hanging out just as friends. But he thinks we're dating. Tonight was our second "date." He brought me flowers, and took me to dinner, and at the end of the night tried to kiss me. Im like whoa buddy. I dont feel anything towards him at all. I like hanging out with him, thats it. But I dont wanna use him, and I dont wanna lead him on. But I dont know how to let him down easily. Hes a really nice guy. I tell him all the time that Im moving and he says that he'll come with me. I dont want him to lol. What do I do?

 

there is no easy way of fixing this, and i think you already know that. youre looking for suggestions that do not exist. no way you are gonna be able to tell him what you need to without having him feel bad.

 

Be straight up and honest, no BS. Anything otherwise can and probably will lead to confusion about your intentions. Yeah you'll hurt his feelings, but the sooner you let him off the easier it'll be for him. Hell, at his age he should be used to rejection.

 

I knoooooow

this sucks

I HATE ITALIANS!!!

lol sorry I dont really mean that. But like ok this guy is 29 and he just sent me a message saying please dont hate me and dont be mad at me and this and that...it sounds like hes like 16! He is exactly like my one ex, who was also italian.

Not only him but all Ive been getting lately is older guys and italians. Freakin I went down to the beach today to chill during lunch and some random guy pulls up next to me and tries to pick me up. Hes gotta be like 28. I want a younger guy, damnit. Or at least someone my age. Ive got one guy Im seeing whos younger but its not serious.

Im gonna turn gay I think

 

I agree with that.. the sooner the better. I guess the easiest way of letting him down would be to just say that you aren't interested in dating anyone right now. I've found it to be helpful in the past at least.. haha. But most definately act as fast as possible or else it will seem like you hid it from him. Hope that helps =)

 

I know....

I thought I made it clear from the get go. I guess he didnt get it.

I told him I'll talk to him later in the week about it.

and oh he told me all about his past relationships and about being rejected. Which is why I kinda felt sorry for him lol.

 

Ye... Italians are like that. Least the Italians I know lol. Must be in the genes. lmao.gif

I agree with C_Dawg_... tell him your not dating anyone right now.

 

Haha.. well he might have been trying to get your sympathy so you will feel bad for him and date him.. haha. You'll that though.. some guys are a little more thick-headed than others, lol. You really REALLY gotta make sure they understand.. lol.

 

Seriously, if you arent Very honest and upfront with him, he's no gonna get the hint that you dont have feelings for him. If you are allready super sketchy about it, chances are its not meant to be?
It is better to say "no" then to lead him on.

 

seriously, from a guy's perspective, he's really falling for you and likes you a lot.
the only way to handle this situation is to tell him straight up that you were thinking about it again and you decided you just can't have this relationship, if you don't want to tell him you don't like him, then make up some lame excuse. but whatever do you do, DO NOT keep going on like this .. you'll break this poor guy's heart. break it off, and when you move away it will make it even easier for him to get over it. the hardest thing is when you really liked someone and you have to keep being reminded of them by seeing them all the time. break it off asap. the friends thing is nice, but to tell you the truth only hurts worse for the guy each minute he's got to be around you.

TC you're a pretty girl .. but you sound desperate. If you ask me, you need to kick it alone for awhile, and once the time is right YOU will find someone you like and seek them out, rather than letting them come to you.