A completely laid back way with no punishments whatsoever and giving them whatever they want?



When I was raised, I would get an ass beating for even smirking at my mom. These days, it seems parents are SOOO light on their kids. I can't say for sure whether or not it's ok, but one thing is for sure that we were raised with spankings, and my siblings and I turned out fine.

 

Children need to be beaten regularly.

The pantywaste, tree-huger method creates sociopaths.

 

I'm all for "corporal punishment", but I think it should be applied properly. People who beat their kids, even spank their kids, out of anger is wrong. Those who do it out of love that their child will turn away from that particular wrong, is good. Some kids take a bit of a whooping to get it into them, others take a swat or two. I thihk the punishment should also match the size of the offense. Physical punishment works up to a certain age (different for everyone), and just causes resentment if used much later on in life. By that point, there are other means of discipline that are more effective than physical means.



But eliminating discipline or punishment... wow... are you stoopid or sumthin? (not you specifically, boyracer, but the generic "they")



What happens later in life when they're told NO? Unless they know what NO means and are able to control themselves early on, they won't get it later on.

 

spanking, etc...not sure about. I think it's a little extreme.



I have a 12 year old at home and she's been raised to know just by how I'm looking at her if she has messed up or given me attitude. That's level 1: "The Look"



Level 2 usually makes her tear up. Level 2 to most people would be the kind of voice volume you would use in a crowded room. To her, it's yelling.



Level 3 brings on a full meltdown with tears and a sad face for like...hours. Level 3 is when I actually have to raise my voice to a point where even I hate it. It sucks...bad. That's why I only use it when it's absolutely necessary. It's still not yelling...it's just firm, loud and completely unmistakeable as to what I want or what's gone wrong.



I've always said fear works better than any other type of punishment(taking away things, early bedtimes, etc) If more kids were of the mindset of "if I get caught doing X, my dad/mom is going to kick my ass(literally or figuratively) and that scares me" then we would have a LOT less problems.

 

I think it depends on the kid. Some kids don't need a lot of discipline, or non corporal punishment is less effective than other methods.



It was highly effective on my daughter. But, it was used sparingly as a disciplinary tool, and never, ever, when I was angry.



A lot of the kids today need a good ass whipping or ten.

 

My mom hit me growing up. I was hit/beaten with a wooden spoon when I was bad. I can remember being terrified if I did something wrong because I knew what was coming. I NEVER want my son to be afraid of me. There are plenty of ways to discipline a child without raising your hand. You guys can try and justify hitting your kids how ever you like (I never hit my kid when I'm angry), but I say it's wrong. I would NEVER hit my son.

 

Like I said, it depends on the kid. Some kids they won't respond to anything else. With mine it was never intended to hurt, or hard enough to hurt. It was more a well defined symbol of her having crossed a line. I think it can be a lot less traumatizing than screaming at a kid.

 

 

If being afraid of a beating is all that keeps a kid in line AND you don't want your kids to be afraid of you, you will rear a sociopath.



Sometimes a kid that responds to spanks responds better to losing a toy.



Sometimes if you tell em you're soooo disappointed, a kid responds better.



It depends entirely on the child's disposition and the situation. If you don't have kids and comment on child-rearing in general, and corporal punishment in specific, then good parents all over the world have a message for you: " talk to me 5 years after you start having kids"

 

LOL! @ that pic.....except I'm German.



I'm 34 now. The wooden spoon beatings actually came up in conversation a while back. My Mom totally denies it happened and can't remember ever hitting me or my sister with it!? My sister was as shocked as I was!



I'll change the tone of my voice and raise it slightly when upset with my son. He knows I mean business and most of the time ends up doing as he's told. Listening to my wife is a totally different story. He knows she'll cave if he puts up a fuss. It's actually kinda funny to watch because he NEVER acts that way with me and my wife knows it and it so pisses her off.