I've been on 4 failing dates , but this one is a different story. I was/am dating this girl I met through my friend. She's the most sweetest, kindest and prettiest girl I've ever dated. I like her alot. After a couple weeks of dating, she finally tells me that she has twin sons (Accidentally). This threw me off the wall and completly ruined my day. I'm 23 and she's 20, I'm not ready to take care of kids. She was freakin' perfect too. I told her that I couldn't do this; she was crying so much and told me that it was just an accident "please give me a chance". Man, i just couldn't do it. Man, I"ve been drinking all day because I've been depressed. Has anhyone has any similiar situations?

 

for one, she shouldn't be calling her kids "accidents" in order to win you over.

also, if you like her so much then her having kids shouldn't be that big of a deal. a girl with (a) child(ren) doesn't bother me at all. it shouldn't bother you either.

give it a chance

 

dude drinking through that isnt gonna help, if you really cant handle dating a girl(no marriage involved yet) that has kids atleast you gotta let her know that you did respect her. honestly though you dont have to marry her or anything, but if you like her (and it seems like you really did)then bare with the kids. they arent yours and it'd be a good way to prepare yourself for your own in the future. maybe give it a chance. lol IDK im just suggesting man. Just drinking through this wont solve anything.

 

if she has kids and she's 20, then you've got a boyfriend on top of that girlfriend. if that's the case, then i think what you did was smart as hell.

drinking doesn't do shit but empty your pocket man. just keep looking, that's the best thing you can do. you can still be her friend, but i wouldn't mess with that. if they were accidents, it means she wasn't careful enough and obviously the guy wasn't either.

 

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Sparticus @ Dec 3 2006, 10:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotemain'>also, if you like her so much then her having kids shouldn't be that big of a deal. a girl with (a) child(ren) doesn't bother me at all. it shouldn't bother you either.</div>

thats a matter of preference man. i wouldnt date a chick knowing she has a kid.

 

just an accident? pffff

if thats how she looks at it then i would steer clear of her buddy.

 

did anyone else take that as she accidentally told him about her kids?

 

^^^ i did. haha, everyone else thought the kids were accidents.

Depends what you want. If u like her enough, u would bare with the kids. If ur not ready for it, its all good, there are others out there.

 

^^ I meant that she has accidental children(bastards), not she accidently told me.

Edit: sorry guys. I meant to say "Unplanned" children, that is a more approproite word..

 

who knows.. you might like the rug rats. Personally, I would not mind dating somebody with kids as I do not intend on having any of my own.