Here we go.. me and my girlfriend were out last nigh have a good time and walking and talking. i was look at some car stuff and she was in the 20 to 30 feet away from me and out the cornner of my eye i saw her fall to the ground. and i took off twards her she was not coherant and i was freaking out.. i carryed her to the base and the bastards would not let me in. i froget my id card.... so i called the mp desk and ask them to help me. i was so afraid she was bleeding from the head, and them f***er want to play 20 question so finialy we get to the TMC" hospital" on the base so after all the shit.. the pvt call the doc and this asshole wanted to just give here asperin WTF WTF. so i called my mom she comes and as we walk out she faints again. so i went to pick here up and now she was bleeding in her you know what. " she was wearing aqua blue sweat pants and i saw. so we end up at a korean hospital she goes in and i am waiting and waiting...test after test 13 hours later. the nurse comes out and tells me she was 3 weeks pregent and that we lost the baby. as i write to you all this shareing my life with you i am crying and cursing me and god and asking why why why. i dont know what i will do and i am so sad i have never felt like this its so hard for me. now......its my falt because i sign the paper saying to operation and at that time i did not know.....but now i am wondering as i say this ....WHO THE f*** DID I PISS OFF TO DESERVE THSS.. its not fair at all.. i lost my baby yell.gif : yell.gif she came out of the OR crying and saying it hurts and there is nothing i can do if i could i would take it all the pain away. for f*** sake she is pissing through a tube.... so now i am going to pass out now i have been up for allmost 49 hours and i am so tired now... i just wish i would have know... i feel so duity i am going to hell...or am i allready in it
thank you all

what should i do....... raincloud.gif scared1.gif i just cant stop crying the more i think about it the deeper and deeper i go

help me

That's sick dude

Enormous loss it must be for you

No more words to describe it.

Be strong, good luck, and you and your wife look after each other.

Kisses

I am so, so sorry.

Think of things this way. You AND your girlfriend did NOT know about the pregnancy. What happened is not the fault of you or her. Things just happen, and they always happen for a reason. You both of plenty of years ahead of you to create another life and take the proper precautions to make sure everything goes right. STOP BLAMING YOURSELF! You didn't do anything wrong. Maybe this whole thing happened because something was telling you that in the long run, you and her weren't ready for a child yet. Just think things through and calm down. I hope you and her start to feel better soon.

I am sorry for you loss, but remember it is not your fault or you girlfreinds fault. Miscarriages usually happen because something went wrong in development, remember that. I know that it is still hard to accept though...

sadwavey.gif Dang dood sigh.gif , Im incredibly sorry.gif sorry to hear this... But like Toxic and Java said, you had no idea nor did she... it was neither of your faults. sad6.gif If you need anything... anything at all, let me know bro, Ill help ya out the best I can. happysad.gif

Mad_John,

You are in a really bad spot right now, but don't play the blame game banghead.gif . There is a reason for everything that happens. Thank God that your girlfriend made it and pray for a full recovery, she is going to need you right now. I have been where you are and did not handle it the right way. Just try to imagine what you feel 1000 times worse and you will get a little closer to how she feels. Just be there for each other and remember that there will be other chances for a new life to be made. I will keep you and your girlfriend in my prayers. If there is anything that your RD Family can do, dont hesitate to ask.

Your Brother,

Tre' sadwavey.gif

You have to remember, the first trimester is the most iffy one. The baby is suseptible to most any problem that can happen. I am sorry, so sorry for your loss... but right now you have more important things to worry about. You girlfriend needs you... be there for her. She is feeling this worse than you. Not only was she the one who went through all this, but she is going to live with this for the rest of her life. Just imagine the worries for the next time she gets pregnant.

Be good man, it will all come out alright in the end, it is just going to take time to heal.

well its midnight here,and i just got back from the hospital, and after i read this comments you wrote i am at a loss for words Thank you so much.. i am trying to do what i can her mother is going to stay with her tonight..she moveing around alittle bit, but i dont think i can stay awake much longer... i am takeing it slow and trying to keep an open mind and not let the dispair take over me... all my life i have been the strong one.. and after the last 2 days...i dont think it can get any worse but i wont do anything stupid. and support her and u peps will keep me going i thank you all so much...but i am so happy that she made it back to me.. and that is all that matters.

Holy god man that is a pretty crazy situation you're in. Don't start blaming yourself though this is totally something that is not in your control. Think about it man, most people find out only because they miss "That time of the month" and you guys weren't even at that stage yet.

Chillax a little bit. Calm down, stop blaming yourself, there is nothing that you would or could have done, especially without knowing what was going on in the first place.

As said before, we got yer back. Keep us updated, my thoughts are with you man.

Sorry to hear man, just remember that you still have each other and together you will get through this...